A rape culture is a culture of intimidation. It keeps women afraid of being attacked and so it keeps women confined in the range of their behavior. That fear makes a women censor her behavior - her speech, her way of dressing, her actions. It undermines her confidence in her ability to be independent. The necessity to be mindful of one’s behavior at all times is far more than annoying. Women’s lives are unnecessarily constricted. As a society, this one issue hampers the best efforts of half our population. It costs us heavily in lost initiative and in emotional energy stolen from other, more creative thoughts."
— Emilie Buchwald, “Raising Girls for the 21st Century” in Transforming a Rape Culture, ed. by E. Buchewald, P. Fletcher and M. Roth, Milkweed Editions, 1993. (via timecodereading)

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There are so many things that trouble me about the obsession with regulating women’s bodies. But as a man, I am particularly exasperated at the assumption that lies beneath the insistence on modesty: the myth that men cannot control themselves. As feminists often point out, the real “man-haters” are those who promote modest dress for women out of the belief that men lack self-control. There is nothing more contemptuous than the suggestion that those of us with penises and Y chromosomes are prisoners of our biology, liable to rape or commit infidelity at the first sign of cleavage. The myth of male weakness sells us woefully, heartbreakingly short."

Standing with the Sluts (Hugo Schwyzer)

^^^^^^^THIS. SO HARD. SO MUCH. THIS ^^^^^^^

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posted: 3 years ago
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womenaresociety:

“It can’t be any more obvious that we live in a patriarchal society if ‘feminist’ is a bad word.”
-Ellen Page

womenaresociety:

“It can’t be any more obvious that we live in a patriarchal society if ‘feminist’ is a bad word.”

-Ellen Page

posted: 3 years ago
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“Eight percent of college men have either attempted or successfully raped. Thirty percent say they would rape if they could get away with it. When the wording was changed to “force a woman to have sex,” the number jumped to 58%. Worse still, 83.5% argue that “some women look like they are just asking to be raped.”

Margo Paine, Ph.D Body Wars

(Source: bblackenedbutterfly)

ilyagerner:

I recall seeing a debate about whether the gender pay gap was “a nonexistent problem” flit across my screen. Add this chart, courtesy of Aaron Carroll, to the dispiriting stack of evidence pointing to a very real problem.
The chart is based on a study published in Health Affairs on starting salaries for medical residents leaving training in New York State from 1999-2008. Every speciality save Gastroenterology and General Surgery shows lower salaries for women doctors. What’s more:

 
But, it’s possible that other factors come into play. Maybe all the women chose jobs with fewer hours, or in cheap areas. So the authors conducted analyses that looked at average mean salary while controlling for the forty-five categories of specialty training, race/ethnicity, age, citizenship, foreign medical graduate status, whether graduates had an MD or OD degree, educational debt, Health Professional Shortage Area work obligation, practice type, location type, patient care hours, and year. Did that get rid of the discrepancy?
No.
[and the gap is getting worse] It’s risen from $3600 in 1999 to over $16,000 in 2008.

ilyagerner:

I recall seeing a debate about whether the gender pay gap was “a nonexistent problemflit across my screen. Add this chart, courtesy of Aaron Carroll, to the dispiriting stack of evidence pointing to a very real problem.

The chart is based on a study published in Health Affairs on starting salaries for medical residents leaving training in New York State from 1999-2008. Every speciality save Gastroenterology and General Surgery shows lower salaries for women doctors. What’s more:

But, it’s possible that other factors come into play. Maybe all the women chose jobs with fewer hours, or in cheap areas. So the authors conducted analyses that looked at average mean salary while controlling for the forty-five categories of specialty training, race/ethnicity, age, citizenship, foreign medical graduate status, whether graduates had an MD or OD degree, educational debt, Health Professional Shortage Area work obligation, practice type, location type, patient care hours, and year. Did that get rid of the discrepancy?

No.

[and the gap is getting worse] It’s risen from $3600 in 1999 to over $16,000 in 2008.

posted: 3 years ago
with: 171 notes
Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says “Come on, one drink!” You say “no thanks.” Later, he brings you a soda. “I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.” For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your “no.” If you say “Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks” and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated."
The art of “no,” continued: Saying no when you’ve already said yes. « CaptainAwkward.com (via notemily)

Is it so hard to believe in the existence of women who are just as sharp, funny, and interesting as the men in these films? It must be, because the only romantic option for a nerdy male lead seems to be the “way out of his league” girl (who it would appear is adored primarily or solely because she is out of his league) who eventually loves him for who he is."

Why Do Screenwriters Hate Nerd Love? (via ryeisenberg)

As problematic as Jezebel can sometimes be, this is a pretty astute observation and a decent article.

(via uprightcitizens)

This quote is also extremely relevant:

In the rare instance when a girl is depicted as a “nerd”, she is usually little more than a prom queen wearing a too-tight Sega t-shirt (possibly paired with knee socks of some sort). Which is apparently all this character needs in a girlfriend: for her to be hot in the specific way he wants her to be hot with no expectations beyond that.

(via feministfilm)

posted: 3 years ago
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The first is that true gender equality is actually perceived as inequality. A group that is made up of 50% women is perceived as being mostly women. A situation that is perfectly equal between men and women is perceived as being biased in favor of women.

And if you don’t believe me, you’ve never been a married woman who kept her family name. I have had students hold that up as proof of my “sexism.” My own brother told me that he could never marry a woman who kept her name because “everyone would know who ruled that relationship.” Perfect equality - my husband keeps his name and I keep mine – is held as a statement of superiority on my part.

"

Fanfic Symposium: When Worlds Collide (via thefuror)

I find myself shocked when women make up more then 1/3 of reoccurring characters :/

(via stfukyriarchy)

this quote is so amazing omgggggg

(via stfufauxminists)

This is spot on. For a patriarchal society, equality is threatening and assigned as the “real sexism” because women aren’t “in their place” where they “belong.” It challenges the system by asserting the notion of women as equal human beings and not property, and frankly, the fact that people have been unwittingly brainwashed to perceive the world under these terms pisses me the fuck off.

(via lavidaescorta)

Before my parents divorced, my mom kept her maiden name after marrying my dad, and my whole childhood people (adults) would ask me if my parents were separated/divorced. When I told them no, they would get all indignant and ruffled and ask why my mom kept her maiden name, as if it was a personal offense to them. LOL They would become even more angry when I simply answered, “Because she wants to.” 

(via sandwichocracy)

sexisbeautiful:

fuckmemilo:

MY LIFEEEEE

only if we have the same lifeeeeeee.




Sadly this is true.

sexisbeautiful:

fuckmemilo:

MY LIFEEEEE

only if we have the same lifeeeeeee.

Sadly this is true.

posted: 3 years ago
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