“Eight percent of college men have either attempted or successfully raped. Thirty percent say they would rape if they could get away with it. When the wording was changed to “force a woman to have sex,” the number jumped to 58%. Worse still, 83.5% argue that “some women look like they are just asking to be raped.”
—Margo Paine, Ph.D Body Wars
I recall seeing a debate about whether the gender pay gap was “a nonexistent problem” flit across my screen. Add this chart, courtesy of Aaron Carroll, to the dispiriting stack of evidence pointing to a very real problem.
The chart is based on a study published in Health Affairs on starting salaries for medical residents leaving training in New York State from 1999-2008. Every speciality save Gastroenterology and General Surgery shows lower salaries for women doctors. What’s more:
But, it’s possible that other factors come into play. Maybe all the women chose jobs with fewer hours, or in cheap areas. So the authors conducted analyses that looked at average mean salary while controlling for the forty-five categories of specialty training, race/ethnicity, age, citizenship, foreign medical graduate status, whether graduates had an MD or OD degree, educational debt, Health Professional Shortage Area work obligation, practice type, location type, patient care hours, and year. Did that get rid of the discrepancy?
[and the gap is getting worse] It’s risen from $3600 in 1999 to over $16,000 in 2008.
Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says “Come on, one drink!” You say “no thanks.” Later, he brings you a soda. “I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.” For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your “no.” If you say “Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks” and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated."
— The art of “no,” continued: Saying no when you’ve already said yes. « CaptainAwkward.com
Is it so hard to believe in the existence of women who are just as sharp, funny, and interesting as the men in these films? It must be, because the only romantic option for a nerdy male lead seems to be the “way out of his league” girl (who it would appear is adored primarily or solely because she is out of his league) who eventually loves him for who he is."
Why Do Screenwriters Hate Nerd Love? (via ryeisenberg)
As problematic as Jezebel can sometimes be, this is a pretty astute observation and a decent article.
This quote is also extremely relevant:
In the rare instance when a girl is depicted as a “nerd”, she is usually little more than a prom queen wearing a too-tight Sega t-shirt (possibly paired with knee socks of some sort). Which is apparently all this character needs in a girlfriend: for her to be hot in the specific way he wants her to be hot with no expectations beyond that.
The first is that true gender equality is actually perceived as inequality. A group that is made up of 50% women is perceived as being mostly women. A situation that is perfectly equal between men and women is perceived as being biased in favor of women.
And if you don’t believe me, you’ve never been a married woman who kept her family name. I have had students hold that up as proof of my “sexism.” My own brother told me that he could never marry a woman who kept her name because “everyone would know who ruled that relationship.” Perfect equality - my husband keeps his name and I keep mine – is held as a statement of superiority on my part.
Fanfic Symposium: When Worlds Collide (via thefuror)
I find myself shocked when women make up more then 1/3 of reoccurring characters :/
this quote is so amazing omgggggg
This is spot on. For a patriarchal society, equality is threatening and assigned as the “real sexism” because women aren’t “in their place” where they “belong.” It challenges the system by asserting the notion of women as equal human beings and not property, and frankly, the fact that people have been unwittingly brainwashed to perceive the world under these terms pisses me the fuck off.
Before my parents divorced, my mom kept her maiden name after marrying my dad, and my whole childhood people (adults) would ask me if my parents were separated/divorced. When I told them no, they would get all indignant and ruffled and ask why my mom kept her maiden name, as if it was a personal offense to them. LOL They would become even more angry when I simply answered, “Because she wants to.”
only if we have the same lifeeeeeee.
Sadly this is true.
(Premable: I’m writing this as a guy who’s grown up listening to punk rock and generally doesn’t know a whole lot about feminism and stuff, but hey, I’m trying. So if you think I’m off base here, then I encourage you to tell me why. I don’t mean that in a confrontational way…
[W]omen who are more forthright about their sexual desires can fall back on intoxication as an excuse should their behaviour be scrutinised by peers. At modern US colleges, it is still easier for young women to say ‘Oh, I was drunk’ rather than say ‘well, I just wanted to get laid’. Intoxication is normative for young women, but actually wanting sex is more problematic, and problematised."
Rachel Kalish and Michael Kimmel (2011) in ’Hooking up: Hot Hetero Sex or the New Numb Narrative?’, Australian Feminist Studies, 26(67), p 143. (via thesexmyth)
The kindest reading of what makes people blame the victims of rape is fear. We don’t want to imagine that what happened to this 11-year-old could happen to us or to our daughters, so we rationalize that it couldn’t, that we are not like her. But there’s much more going on. There’s deep-seated fear of and disgust for women and female sexuality. We don’t have the same reaction to a boy getting beat up as we do to a girl getting raped; we don’t tend to wonder what the boy did to provoke the bully. Here’s the thing: Any attempt to gain emotional distance on rape by transferring just a tiny portion, just one percent, of the blame onto the victim is an absolute moral wrong. It subtracts from the agency of the individual doing the raping. He is completely culpable. It is his crime — or, in the case of 18 young men and boys, it is theirs."
— Cleveland texas gang rape: The New York Times skips context in its reporting.
[Picture: Background: 6 piece pie style colour split with beige and woodland green alternating. Foreground: a head-on photo of a disgruntled looking white sheep. Top text: “”Boys will be boys”” Bottom text: “No, socialisation.”]